Ableism

Dave wrote about “ableism” in his post titled, “Silence and The Day Before.”

Many people judge Aspies as NT, we are often looked at as the bad guy or the strange and unusual. As kids we were labeled weirdo, geek, and freak. The truth is we tick differently and well the beat of our drum is different than what others expect. Although we tick differently the cause is nearly invisible. Without a wheel chair you are labeled “able”. Without a dog leading the way you are labeled as “able”. Without a translator using sign language we just fit into the mold of “normal” and labeled as “able”.

One size fits all does not fit the  mold anymore, people. I know people are just not used to invisible differences but they certainly exist.

I personally like to blend in as a NT, especially in public. The last thing I want is strangers attention focused on me burning holes in me with their stairs on curiosity. It makes me want to jump around like a monkey scratching my pits – but I can’t do it because I can get over the unwanted attention I would receive from the one and only person not staring. So I guess it’s best for Aspies to look normal.

Ableism has certainly been a problem from a parents view. Some people feel because they shared the air in a store that they are somehow entitled to judge my child’s ‘bratty outburst’ as being as spoiled brat and make ugly comments or give dirty looks. Comments like “give me a day with him, he’ll walk a straight line,” “boy, someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed.” (Yes it’s you bitch… Now turn around and mind your own!) Oh I don’t miss those days.

At times I wished that he looked less normal so the comments and unwanted attention didn’t make the situation worse.

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